You Were Meant to Mature
There comes a point—sometimes early, sometimes after years of walking with God—when the old questions stop working.
You’ve asked Him to show you what to do.
Where to go.
How to know if you’re on the right track.
You weren’t trying to control Him.
You just didn’t want to get it wrong.
Maybe you were taught that God has a very specific plan for your life—one job, one spouse, one city, one calling—and your job is to discover it and follow it exactly.
So you’ve waited for signs.
Watched for peace.
Begged for clarity.
But it hasn’t come the way you hoped.
And beneath the waiting, a deeper question starts to form:
“Is this how it’s always going to be?
Do I really have to keep asking for directions every step of the way?”
Here’s the truth:
God doesn’t want you stuck in uncertainty.
But He also doesn’t want you dependent forever.
He’s not trying to train you to rely on signs.
He’s growing you into someone who lives in alignment with what’s real.
Yes—there are moments when God speaks clearly.
When you’re unsure. When you’re learning. When you need the nudge.
He will be the voice that says, “Go to the left or the right.”
He meets us with the kind of guidance we need for the stage we’re in.
But the goal was never just to follow instructions.
The goal is transformation.
Clarity of heart. Wisdom of spirit. Alignment with love.
God isn’t raising children who can’t decide without His say-so.
He’s raising friends who know His character—and live freely inside His design.
The Distortion – The Myth of the One Right Plan
Somewhere along the way, many of us picked up a version of God that feels more like a silent strategist than a loving Father.
We were told:
“God has a specific plan for your life.”
One best path. One divine assignment.
And your job is to figure it out—or risk missing everything.
Often, this came from well-meaning people.
They wanted us to be careful. To be faithful. To make wise choices.
So we watch our lives like detectives—searching for clues, overanalyzing choices, second-guessing peace.
We treat our decisions like high-stakes tests.
We wait for confirmation.
We fear misalignment.
We ask, over and over again:
“Is this the right thing? Or am I missing God’s will?”
At first, this seems like faithfulness.
But underneath, it’s fear.
Not the awe kind. The anxious kind. The “don’t blow it” kind.
We start to believe that God’s will is a thin thread stretched across time—and one wrong move could snap it.
And that’s when spiritual growth gets stuck.
Not because God is hiding, but because we’re afraid to move.
But this idea—that God has only one right plan for you, and you’d better guess it correctly—isn’t love.
It’s not freedom.
And it’s not the way God works.
God’s will was never meant to be a riddle to solve.
It was always meant to be a relationship lived inside reality.
Because the goal isn’t perfect performance.
It’s becoming the kind of person who walks in trust, who sees clearly, who lives in tune with what is true.
The Design – You Were Given Reality, Not a Script
God didn’t drop you into the world with a hidden script and a test to pass.
He gave you something more stable. More beautiful. More freeing.
He gave you reality—a world held together by design.
This design isn’t a rulebook. It’s a pattern. A rhythm. A structure built on love, truth, and freedom.
These aren’t arbitrary principles—they’re how life actually works.
Love isn’t just a virtue—it’s a force that creates life.
Truth isn’t just a belief—it’s alignment with what’s real.
Freedom isn’t permission to do whatever you want—it’s the atmosphere required for growth.
And you?
You were created to live inside that reality. To learn, explore, respond, create.
Your personality?
A result of your story, your wiring, your culture, your wounds.
God works with it—but He didn’t hand-select every trait.
Your desires and instincts?
Some are beautiful. Some are distorted. All of them are real—and they’re yours to learn from, not shame away.
You were born outside the original design—born into distortion, fragmentation, disconnection.
But you weren’t left there.
God’s will is to restore you to harmony with Himself—not by forcing you into place, but by walking with you into clarity.
So no, He didn’t give you a rigid blueprint.
He gave you freedom inside form.
Structure without control.
An invitation to mature, not a maze to escape.
God’s will isn’t a fixed path you must discover.
It’s a way of living you’re invited to grow into.
And the more you walk in harmony with what’s true,
the less damage you do—to yourself, to others, to the world around you.
That’s not behavior management.
That’s healing.
And remember: this design is deeply relational.
It reflects how God treats you—and invites you to treat others the same.
The Surrender – Not to a Plan, But to Reality
We often think of surrender as giving up control so God can tell us what to do.
But real surrender is something deeper—something more human and more holy.
It’s letting go of distortion.
It’s releasing the fear that there’s one “right answer” and you’re probably missing it.
It’s unclenching the parts of you trying to earn certainty by being good enough or tuned in enough.
Surrender is not passivity.
It’s participation with truth.
It doesn’t sound like:
“God, just tell me what to do.”
It sounds like:
“God, help me see clearly.
Show me what I’m clinging to.
Reveal where my thinking, my preferences, my instincts are out of alignment with Your design.”
Because your greatest danger isn’t choosing the wrong job.
It’s trying to live outside of reality.
Outside of love.
Outside of truth.
Yes—God can and will give guidance.
When you’re overwhelmed. When you’re unsure. When you ask.
Sometimes the whisper will come: “Go to the left.” “Go to the right.”
That’s not weakness. That’s relationship.
But God’s ultimate goal is not to turn you into someone who always waits for instructions.
His goal is to grow you into someone who knows His heart.
Who can move with wisdom.
Who can think and feel and choose from alignment—because He dwells in you.
This is what maturity looks like.
Not independence from God, but interdependence with Him.
A life shaped by love, filtered through design, and lived in step with what is true.
That’s surrender.
Not giving up your agency—but letting love guide how you use it.
The Story – Ruth Didn’t Follow a Script. She Followed Love.
Ruth didn’t get a divine download.
No vision. No prophetic word. No map from heaven.
All she had was heartbreak, loss, and a grieving mother-in-law who told her to walk away.
And Ruth said:
“Where you go, I’ll go. Where you stay, I’ll stay.
Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.”
There was no promise of a future.
No clarity about what would happen next.
Just presence. Loyalty. Faithfulness. A quiet trust that love was a better guide than fear.
She wasn’t following a plan.
She was following a person.
And in doing that—she walked straight into God’s story.
Not because she made all the “right” choices.
But because she made choices from alignment—with love, with courage, with truth.
There’s no record of God telling Ruth what to do.
And yet, she ended up woven into the very line of the Messiah.
Not by waiting for certainty.
But by showing up in love, moment by moment, without a script.
God isn’t looking for flawless performance.
He’s looking for growing trust.
For a heart that stays open, even when old fears flare up.
Restoration isn’t about keeping every rule without error.
It’s about healing the damage that distortion has done.
Yes, as we walk with God, we’ll start to live more in harmony with His design.
Our choices will change. Our patterns will shift.
But when we mess up—and we will—He’s not flinching.
He knows our wiring.
He knows the stress, the habits, the survival responses that still live in our nervous system.
And when those things kick in, He’s not standing over us in disappointment.
He’s right beside us, saying:
“Keep walking. You’re still mine. We’re going to keep going.”
“He knows our frame; He remembers that we are dust.” (Psalm 103:14)
God already knew what He was working with.
And He’s already promised to finish the work He started in you.
The restoration? That’s His business.
Your part is just to keep walking toward Him—open, trusting, real.
The Practice – Living Fully Within the Frame
Life isn’t a coloring book.
You weren’t handed a sheet with black outlines to fill in exactly or else.
You were given a canvas—wide, living, stretched taut across a solid frame.
That frame? It’s not control. It’s reality.
God’s design. His law of love. The way things actually work.
It’s built into the structure of the universe:
truth, freedom, love, consequence.
You can’t bypass it. You can’t manipulate it. But you can learn to live inside it.
And inside that frame—you’re free.
To move. To try. To create. To explore.
To bring who you are—your brushstrokes, your colors, your choices—into alignment with what’s real.
But try to paint outside the frame—try to build identity from fear, try to live disconnected from love—and nothing holds.
It smears. It fades. It breaks.
Because there’s nothing real outside reality.
You can’t even paint there.
That’s what distortion is: not just doing bad things,
but trying to live in unreality.
Trying to build a life apart from the truth of who God is and how His world works.
That’s why surrender isn’t giving up your creativity.
It’s bringing it back into harmony.
It’s not about becoming passive.
It’s about becoming present.
It looks like learning to accept the moment unfolding in front of you—
not because everything is good, but because everything is real.
And when you stop fighting reality, you start to feel it:
God is already here.
So now the question shifts.
No longer:
“What’s the right path?”
But instead:
“How can I bring more of God’s love, truth, and design into this moment?”
That’s the new practice.
It’s how you grow up.
It’s how you heal.
It’s how you build a life that resonates—
not by following a script,
but by living freely inside the frame.
The Invitation – You’re Still in It
Maybe you’ve spent years trying to find God’s will for your life.
Or waiting for clarity that never came.
Maybe you’ve made choices that haunt you.
Or sat still too long, afraid to move.
You’ve asked the questions:
“Did I miss it?”
“Was that the wrong turn?”
“Would my life have been better if I’d just listened more, tried harder, prayed differently?”
But here’s the truth you may have never been told:
You’re still in it.
You haven’t been disqualified.
You haven’t ruined your story.
God isn’t standing back, watching with disappointment.
He’s in the brushstrokes with you.
He never needed you to paint perfectly.
He only ever asked you to paint honestly—
to show up,
to respond,
to stay open when you’d rather shut down.
You were never meant to decode a hidden plan.
You were meant to walk with Him.
To live awake.
To grow in trust.
To learn, with time, what aligns with love—and what doesn’t.
And yes—there’s still room.
Room for healing.
Room for joy.
Room for the kind of freedom that only grows when you finally stop trying to get it “right”
and start asking instead:
“God, how can I be with You—right here, in what’s real?”
That’s not settling.
That’s coming home.
Because the canvas is still beneath you.
The frame is still holding.
And the One who designed it?
He’s right here—still walking with you,
still whispering truth when you pause to listen,
still drawing you back to love when fear pulls you away.
You’re not lost.
You’re learning.
You’re loved.
The Bigger Story – What God’s Really After
If you’ve been holding your breath—waiting to find the one “right” thing you were supposed to do with your life—
you can let that go now.
God isn’t trying to get you to follow a micro-managed plan.
He’s trying to bring you back into reality.
To heal what distortion has damaged.
To restore what fear has broken.
The macro-plan is already clear.
He wants you whole.
He wants you free.
He wants you to live in love—now, and forever.
That’s what all this has always been about.
Not just finding your role, but being restored into relationship.
With Him.
With others.
With yourself.
And that restoration doesn’t happen through pressure.
It happens through presence.
Through learning how He treats you—and letting that shape how you treat the world.
Because this universe? It runs on relationship.
That’s the design.
That’s the goal.
That’s the good news.
And when you live inside that—
when you stop trying to force clarity and start walking in trust—
you’re not behind.
You’re not off track.
You’re not late.
You’re home.
Trevor
